Upon hearing that I am a wedding planner people are immediately intrigued. They ask about what it is I actually do, since J Lo and I look practically like twins, I can see how people might revert to The Wedding Planner depiction of what it is I do...
Which isn't entirely accurate. I don't fall in love with the groom after nearly being rolled over to death by a dumpster, I don't wear a head set on the day of (although I do fanny pack), and I do not wear a 1990's chic suit skirt paired with a power bun (my buns are much more friendly and my blazer much more modern grandpa than airline stewardess).
Inevitably the comment I often hear, 'I could never deal with all of that stress and all of those bitchy brides'.
Ain't none of my brides bitchy. Well, maybe just one of them, but they were super sweet and kind and nice to me!! The point is, weddings can be stressful, and there are a lot of pain points that contribute to the deterioration of that pre-wedding bliss. This episode is all about preparing yourselves for some of them and making a plan for success!
BEST PRACTICES FOR LOWERING STRESS?
EAT YOUR VEGGIES
GIVE YOURSELF PLENTY OF TIME
HAVE A PLAN + GOALS
HOW LONG DO I NEED TO PLAN MY WEDDING?
Because a lot of the wedding planning pains that I see in my couples come when they have a lot left to do in a little amount of time, I am a huge proponent for setting a wedding date far, far in advance. Check out this blog post, Why You Should Wait to Get Married.
Remember, weddings are no joke. They are a lot of details, a lot of people, and a lot of emotions. They also require a lot of time to plan (i.e. more than a day, more than a week, likely, more than a month).
WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE WAYS TO DESTRESS?
When it comes to planning, I like to do all of the things I just said you should do. But I also like taking walks to clear my head. Maybe I listen to an Amy Porterfield podcast, maybe I just walk unaccompanied by any noise. GASP! I know, but silence can be so clarifying.
I also think, 10 hours of sleep can really make you feel like a superhero, like you can conquer anything, including that mountain of a guest list that you need to shave down to a mini-mound. Peel yourselves away from electronics and get a little extra sleep.
More ways to relax: a hot shower, yoga, essential oils, watch Pride and Prejudice or Ever After or Last Holiday, go for drinks with a friend you haven't seen in forever. Number one way to avoid the wedding planning woes: remind yourself that EVERYTHING'S GONNA BE OKAY.
You get to get married and that, in and of itself, is enough. Without the maroon napkins, without the four tiered naked cake, without the string quartet - you get to be with the one you love, committed, for ever and ever.