So you're getting married.

The I will before the I dos, the yes please, and the can I with you's, if you made it this far then I'd like to think you've chosen wisely. Now it's time to make some more choices. Like what date shall we pick to get married on, a Friday or Sunday, a Saturday or someday else?

Then you'll choose a venue, a photographer, a florist, and more. You'll be so swamped in decision making and money spending that you might get lost, frustrated, or even burnt out. Before it gets that far take my advice and take a moment to talk about choices.

I suggest a night in, with pens and paper, perhaps sans internet so you can't get distracted or sucked into the inanity of the internet. Some liquor if that's your thing, healthy snacks or your favorite snacks (which likely are unhealthy snacks), and set Spotify to: Coffee Table Jazz (psst... enter it in the search bar).

Unsure even what choices you'll be asked to make in the coming future? Want to get a head start on your opinions, your must haves, and your I wants? Keep scrolling for inspirational photos + a list of oranges and apples you might come across during the planning process.

Be sure to scroll ALL THE WAY to the bottom for vendor credits, there's quite a few GREAT ones in the mix! Thanks to Matt Lien for capturing them all.

Guys getting ready in the morning | Acowsay Videography | Matt Lien Photography | Sixpence Standard Wedding Blog
Hand written cards  | Acowsay Videography | Matt Lien Photography | Sixpence Standard Wedding Blog
...everyone who knows me, knows that I am a decisive person. But when I met you, Patrick, there was no decision to be made. Loving you was no choice at all... I was drawn to you without any conscious thought.
— jessie's vows
reading personal cards on the morning of your wedding  | Acowsay Videography | Matt Lien Photography | Sixpence Standard Wedding Blog
personalized cards and old photos | Acowsay Videography | Matt Lien Photography | Sixpence Standard Wedding Blog
emerald green wedding shoes, peep toe with ankle strap, small wedge heel | Acowsay Videography | Matt Lien Photography | Sixpence Standard Wedding Blog

Sleeping together the night before the wedding VS sleeping separate
Getting ready at the venue VS getting ready offsite (like at home)
Chilling before the action starts VS fitting in a planned activity (golfing, yoga)
Ordering lunch (Jimmy John's) VS munching on snacks
Mimosa bar VS plain old champagne
Heels VS flats
Bowtie VS regular necktie
Jewelry VS bare skinned (you know what I mean)
Writing each other cards VS not, er, writing each other cards

father's first look of bride  | Acowsay Videography | Matt Lien Photography | Sixpence Standard Wedding Blog


First look with dad or the fiancé VS no first looks or only with one of them
First look on site VS trekking about for the first look
Wedding party photos before the wedding VS wedding photos after the ceremony
Matching bridal party outfits VS color coordinated only
Dictating what your bridal party wears VS not really giving a shit as long as they look nice
Having a flower girl/ring bearer VS not having any extraneous characters in the processional


POINT OF CLARIFICATION: Bridal party involves both sides regardless of if they stand up with the groom or the bride or the second groom or second bride. 
 

matchbox wedding favors in a geodome  | Acowsay Videography | Matt Lien Photography | Sixpence Standard Wedding Blog
love laser cut cake topper, two tier with orange ranunculus | Acowsay Videography | Matt Lien Photography | Sixpence Standard Wedding Blog
Fan program  | Acowsay Videography | Matt Lien Photography | Sixpence Standard Wedding Blog

Having programs VS letting your guest figure it out on their own (next comes dinner...)
Giving out wedding favors VS not giving out your monogram
Serving cake VS providing any number of non-cake dessert items
Having a plated meal VS having dinner buffet style VS having stations and heavy appetizers VS serving dinner family style
Providing an open bar VS providing a limited amount of alcohol fo' free
Providing transportation VS making guests be responsible (like they are most days of their lives)
 

bride and groom walking in the grassy field, bride with cap sleeved lace dress  | Acowsay Videography | Matt Lien Photography | Sixpence Standard Wedding Blog

SO you see, there are a multitude of choices to make as it regards your wedding. I mean that was just a few, and there are millions more than what I have provided (I'm assuming your attention span for reading blogs is just as short as mine, so we'll just wrap it up quickly now).

The important thing to remember? It's your wedding. Let me break that down (quickly) for you. You are about to get mother f'ing MARRIED!!! Do you know how huge that is? You are committing your life to one other person because you love them so much it HURTS! Think on that for more than a second.

It means, it's your wedding and you can get married however you want to. In America the only real stipulation is that you only marry one person, but aside from that and the normal laws and regulations of your regional area, you can go to town! Make the choices that make you feel happy, in love, crazy excited and overall content. Choose your spouse and all the good things in the world, whether that means a lot or a little, expensive or cheap, fancy or DIY, silver or gold, or both or neither. Have fun making choices for your wedding my friend and, oh yeah, let me know if you need any help!

bride and groom, forehead touch in a field  | Acowsay Videography | Matt Lien Photography | Sixpence Standard Wedding Blog | Posh Bridal Couture dress by Claire Pettibone

VENDORS:
VENUE // Dellwood Barn
VIDEOGRAPHY // Acowsay Cinema
PHOTOGRAPHY // Matt Lien Photography
PLANNING // Adore Weddings & Events
FLORAL // Artemisia Studios
WEDDING GOWN // Posh Bridal Couture by DESIGNER // Claire Pettibone Couture 
DJ // Instant Request DJ

Itching to see more? Check out Matt Lien's and Acowsay's blog posts featuring more and more.

 

Prosperity, Love & Happiness,
Josey

 

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