There's nothing worse than thinking to yourself, "I think my smile is getting a bit fake looking", then you look at the pictures and you're like, "Oh, boy. Authentic Alice over here with her pageant smile, hamming up our beautiful wedding photos."
And you know what? Probably only you notice (and your mom. moms always know.)
Or what about those pre-wedding jitters about being the center of attention. Like all eyes, all camera lenses, all people watching you, listening to you and you have NOWHERE to hide!
Okay, don't let me freak you out. Read on for How to Have Authentic Emotions (the happy and elated kind) in Your Wedding Photos.
First things first, STOP thinking about it. If you are worried about being the center of attention, maybe you should have a small, intimate wedding, or an elopement with close family only. Not that worried about it? How about saying your vows for your spouse-to-be to hear only, that means going sans-microphone. Or rehearse your words, to cut the nerves.
Worried about crying your eyeballs out? Tell someone to remind you to TAKE A DEEP BREATHE. The oxygen will be good for your brain (and your emotions). But really stop worrying and overanalyzing. Life will happen, moments will pass you by, go with the flow and know that NO ONE is judging you. Well, they'll judge you if you runaway-bride your fiancé, or if you get bride-zilla and shave your head (sorry both of those examples are fairly sexist -- oh what if you lock your knees and pass out, that's a gender neutral example).
Let authentic emotions flow and embrace the fact that you might be nervous, conquer those nerves by having a pre-ceremony dance party in the holding room or a small cocktail (if your officiant/venue allows it). Dispel worries about tears-ruined makeup by going with airbrush and fake lashes, pair that with a hankie and you've got a recipe for emotional success.
TIP: If you feel the tears swelling and want to conceal them, or keep them off your face, lean over and blink hard so those drops fall on the ground and not on your tie or cheeks. Dab on the inside of your eye, don't rub those sockets or you'll get blotchy. Guys, I know you'll be tempted to back hand it, or to use the sleeve, I'd say finger tips or pocket square if there's nothing else.
TIP REVISION: Also you could not give a shit, it's your wedding and you'll cry if you want to.
Next, STOP planning for emotions. Pinterest is great but you are not that person in the pin. You are you. You have a different face, a different dress, you're hair is different, you're getting married at a different time and place. You are you.
SO draw inspiration from, but don't think that you'll be able to replicate pins. Be yourself and ease up on the aspirations for Instagram fame. Let yourself be wrapped up in the joy of the day, the spontaneity that being a bride yields, and the certain freedom you feel as a groom (allowed to drink beer at 10A until long past midnight, in fact it's almost encouraged!).
Lastly, embrace the moments, and if you have a wonderful photographer, this will be easy. You won't feel like a celebrity bombarded by paparazzi, instead you'll feel like you. Your photographer will blend into the backdrop and you'll be able to just be you. For Pete's sake.
Need some help taking a chill pill and letting your nerves unravel? Check out my podcast episode read just for your ears!
Prosperity, Love & Happiness,
Photo credit: Alyssa Lee Photography
P.S. Did you notice that picture of the groom holding his dad's (I assume it's his pop) hand!?! Heart. Melting. Away.