There are certain duties you have as a couple getting married. You have to get your marriage license (if you want the day to be legally binding), you have to stand up in front of guests and make vows (unless you elope) and you must welcome and thank your wedding guests (unless your a rude pile of poop who doesn’t care about anyone else in this cold, cruel world).
Guessing none of the unless’s applied to you since you’re still here.
The perfect wedding welcome is really a way of greeting guests, a way to thank them for coming and the perfect segue from cocktail hour to dinner.
WHO GIVES THE WEDDING WELCOME
Perhaps you’re thinking the ‘host’ should welcome guests, however no, you and your fiancé (who’ll be your husband or wife at the time of giving said welcome) should deliver it as the guests of honor.
GUEST OF HONOR: Etiquette mumbo jumbo that boils down to a simple answer. The bride and groom/bride and bride/groom and groom should give the wedding welcome.
WHEN DO WE GIVE A WEDDING WELCOME
Right before dinner is my advice. Sure it can go likely anywhere else (like around speech time), but envision with me this perfect scenario:
Guests are seated for dinner, there is a dull roar of table chatter.
The DJ or emcee announces the couple (including the bridal party or not) into the room.
Guest cheer and clink their glass for an obligatory kiss from the couple.
The couple ends that kiss with an eloquent welcome which is greeted by guests with huge smiles and happy hearts.
Optional: a blessing or prayer is said.
Dinner is served!
WHAT DO WE SAY IN A WEDDING WELCOME
The basic elements include:
a greeting (hello)
an explanation (about who is present, about how the day got planned or came about)
a thank you
a request (to dance all night or drink up).
Check out the following examples:
“Hello everyone and thank you so much for coming. NAME OF SILENT SPOUSE and I are so happy to see all of the people we love most gathered together in one room. We know that some of you traveled far to get here and we intend to make it worth the trip. Please enjoy the open bar and this delicious dinner we’re about to have and we’ll see you on the dance floor!”
“Wow, NAME OF SILENT SPOUSE and I can’t believe what a great day this has been so far. We are so happy to see so many of you, some that we haven’t seen in quite a long time. NAME OF SILENT SPOUSE, spent so much time and energy in putting this day together and I think we can all agree, it looks amazing in here doesn’t it?! [CROWD GOES WILD] We want to thank all of you for coming today to celebrate with us. We also want to thank all of the vendors that have made today possible, including the caterers who’ve prepared for us a delicious meal. Thank you all for coming and cheers!”
TIPS FOR A GREAT WEDDING WELCOME
Be succinct, have what you want to say outlined so you’re ‘uhm’s and ‘like’s are at a bare minimum.
Hold the microphone close to your face, your DJ or sound person can always turn it down if you’re too loud, but rarely any one ever is.
Have one person talk and the other stand up, grooms please don’t leave your brides in the lurch by ending your welcome with, ‘Uh, did you want to say anything else hun?’.
Cheers at the end and sit down, so guests know to clap and it doesn’t feel awkward. Without an ‘end’ you’ll likely say something like, ‘Yeah, so, I don’t know what else to say… that’s it!’.
Don’t be nervous! Guests are so enamored with you in this moment that you could literally make fart sounds into your hand and they’d just shrug and cheers it anyways.
Are you already married? What kind of wedding welcome did your wedding have? Comment below!
Prosperity, Love & Happiness,
Photo credit Krista Reynolds Photography