Here's the deal. If you go duck hunting every year, have duck feather boutonnieres. If you know how to fire a gun, have shotgun shells instead of flower girl petals. If you love your dog, have your dog in your couples portraits.
And if you love your fiancé then let your fiancé's aunt budge into your wedding decor plans even if what she brings is technically not allowed.
Did anyone else have the strong urge to object to that last line? Listen. Wedding days are about being in the moment BUT also they are about being gracious, and patient and accepting. You are bringing together two families, two potentially polar opposite families. Things are bound to happen that you don't want to happen, the way you don't want them happening.
When I got married my husband and I received a lot of gifts, #thankyou. Some were on the registry. The registry that we made way too long, for things that potentially we did not need (more about what to register for here). We also received some gifts that were NOT on the registry, like not even close, like not an off brand or a different color or a smaller model.
While it is up to the gift giver on what to give, some items we're not kept by the gift received.
But we still thanked them and kept them for the appropriate length of time (ie. until way after teh wedding day).
And the same thing might, and will likely, happen to you #randombreaddish. This can happen before the big day, like with gifts or last minute RSVPs ish, but it might also happen on the day of.
Like a loving family member may show up with extra decor, random stationery, or other unwanted things that they would like you to incorporate on your big day, because it is important to them.
Roll with it sistah.
Take a deep breath and let it go! As long as you say 'I do' on the day of your wedding, the rest of the details, the mishaps and the this-is-not-what-I-had-envisioneds, well, they just don't matter.
Wind picking up your vows and carrying them away so that only the front row can hear you?
Let it go.
Impromptu receiving line that both sets of parents join in on making your life an unbearable episode of one-hour-waiting-in-the-hot-sun fun?
Breathe. Hydrate. Be calm.
Mosquitos putting a damper on your sunset photos?
It'll be okay!! Laugh it off, shake it off, get bug-off and be cool hunny bunny. Take some of my well-meaning advice on how to avoid wedding day melt downs, no matter how many curve balls you get thrown.
6 THINGS WE CAN LEARN NICK + ANNMARIE
- Have a buffer. As their day of coordinator I was able to be a bit bossier, a bit more direct, and an excellent scape goat. Like give me your decor list, how you want it set up and I will execute. Then when approached by well-meaning friends or family with extras or excess, I can respond, "It looks like this is all I have on my list, why don't you leave the box over there and I'll triple check in a little while." Works every time.
- Have a photographer who can redirect. Also someone with authority, who can lay down the law. If your photographer can just steal you away, when you're feeling slightly stressed, for some couples photos it can really help you redirect and refocus.
- Have your decor boxes well labeled. Seriously! This can cut down on a LOT of confusion. Having a clearly and comprehensively outlined room layout and decor list will ensure that all your wedding ideas get executed.
- Be flexible. Weather dependent it may be near impossible for your reception room to be closed off and for you to be hidden pre-ceremony. Being gracious means allowing guests the space to be comfortable and safe. Example, its hot and windy, your ceremony is outside, guests over 80 should be allowed to sit at reception tables inside and watch your nuptials from afar.
- Accept that your wedding things won't always be easy. But neither is marriage or life. Check out what calm, cool and collected, even in the heat of things, looks like below.
- Bring bug spray during mosquito season.
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Accommodations // Holiday Inn and Candlewood Suites in Lakeville | Baker // Buttercream Creations | Day of Coordinating // Sixpence Events & Planning | DJ // Midwest Sound | Dress // Carrie Johnson Bridal | Florist // Richfield Flowers and Events | Hair and Makeup // Salon Onyx | Officiant // Liz Liebstein | Photographer // Kelly Birch Photography | Rentals // All the Rage Rentals | Stationer / Cornerstone Copy | Transportation // Schmitty & Sons | Venue // Horse and Hunt Club
Prosperity, Love & Happiness,