LISI WEDS ALEX

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LISI WEDS ALEX

It is honestly a waste of time to look at any others planners. Josey gets it right the first time, every time! We recently used Josey as our wedding planner. Apparently, planning a wedding is supposed to be stressful. Thanks to Josey I never had to experience an ounce of stress. Thank you so much for making our special day elegant, stress-free & perfect!!!

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MANDY WEDS CURTIS

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MANDY WEDS CURTIS

“Our wedding day was smooth, organized and magical. Everything went off without a hitch (that I'm aware of). And that's how you truly know Josey is AMAZING at her job! In the beginning, I'm not going to lie... I wasn't sure that I needed a coordinator, but after that experience I couldn't imagine our wedding without her! As my husband said, "It was like magic... we needed something and POW! Josey pulled it out of her fanny pack." She is the BEST in the business that's for sure!”

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What to do Right After You Get Engaged

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What to do Right After You Get Engaged

Did you know? Saying yes to getting married means saying yes to planning a wedding. Which is a lot of work. So much work that people have made it their full-time job. People like me, let me share my work knowledge with you.

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AnnMarie WEDS Nick

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AnnMarie WEDS Nick

Here's the deal. If you go duck hunting every year, have duck feather boutonnieres. If you know how to fire a gun, have shotgun shells instead of flower girl petals. If you love your dog, have your dog in your couples portraits.

And if you love your fiancé then let your fiancé's aunt budge into your wedding decor plans even if what she brings is technically not allowed.

Did anyone else have the strong urge to object to that last line? Listen. Wedding days are about being in the moment BUT also they are about being gracious, and patient and accepting. You are bringing together two families, two potentially polar opposite families. Things are bound to happen that you don't want to happen, the way you don't want them happening.

When I got married my husband and I received a lot of gifts, #thankyou. Some were on the registry. The registry that we made way too long, for things that potentially we did not need (more about what to register for here). We also received some gifts that were NOT on the registry, like not even close, like not an off brand or a different color or a smaller model. 

While it is up to the gift giver on what to give, some items we're not kept by the gift received.

But we still thanked them and kept them for the appropriate length of time (ie. until way after teh wedding day).

And the same thing might, and will likely, happen to you #randombreaddish. This can happen before the big day, like with gifts or last minute RSVPs ish, but it might also happen on the day of.

Like a loving family member may show up with extra decor, random stationery, or other unwanted things that they would like you to incorporate on your big day, because it is important to them.

Roll with it sistah.

Take a deep breath and let it go! As long as you say 'I do' on the day of your wedding, the rest of the details, the mishaps and the this-is-not-what-I-had-envisioneds, well, they just don't matter.

Wind picking up your vows and carrying them away so that only the front row can hear you?

Let it go.

Impromptu receiving line that both sets of parents join in on making your life an unbearable episode of one-hour-waiting-in-the-hot-sun fun?

Breathe. Hydrate. Be calm.

Mosquitos putting a damper on your sunset photos?

It'll be okay!! Laugh it off, shake it off, get bug-off and be cool hunny bunny. Take some of my well-meaning advice on how to avoid wedding day melt downs, no matter how many curve balls you get thrown.

 

6 THINGS WE CAN LEARN NICK + ANNMARIE

  1. Have a buffer. As their day of coordinator I was able to be a bit bossier, a bit more direct, and an excellent scape goat. Like give me your decor list, how you want it set up and I will execute. Then when approached by well-meaning friends or family with extras or excess, I can respond, "It looks like this is all I have on my list, why don't you leave the box over there and I'll triple check in a little while." Works every time.
     
  2. Have a photographer who can redirect. Also someone with authority, who can lay down the law. If your photographer can just steal you away, when you're feeling slightly stressed, for some couples photos it can really help you redirect and refocus.
     
  3. Have your decor boxes well labeled. Seriously! This can cut down on a LOT of confusion. Having a clearly and comprehensively outlined room layout and decor list will ensure that all your wedding ideas get executed.
     
  4. Be flexible. Weather dependent it may be near impossible for your reception room to be closed off and for you to be hidden pre-ceremony. Being gracious means allowing guests the space to be comfortable and safe. Example, its hot and windy, your ceremony is outside, guests over 80 should be allowed to sit at reception tables inside and watch your nuptials from afar.
     
  5. Accept that your wedding things won't always be easy. But neither is marriage or life. Check out what calm, cool and collected, even in the heat of things, looks like below.
     
  6. Bring bug spray during mosquito season.
 

VIEW THEIR IMAGES:

boutonniere pinning, duck feathers | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
program blue band top and bottom | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
invitation suite with duck feathers | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
flower girl twirl | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
photo of family wedding photos | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
hand holding | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
flame fold napkin | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
wood cookie centerpiece with birch box arrangement | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
birch branch log place card holder | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
petals and duck feathers confetti recessional walk | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
field photo | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
key hole dress back with lace border | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
prom pose wedding photo | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
golden hour field photo with the mosquitos | Kelly Birch Photography :: Horse and Hunt Club :: Sixpence Events Minnesota wedding planner .jpg
 

CHECK OUT THEIR VENDORS:

Accommodations // Holiday Inn and Candlewood Suites in Lakeville | Baker // Buttercream Creations | Day of Coordinating // Sixpence Events & Planning | DJ // Midwest Sound | Dress // Carrie Johnson Bridal | Florist // Richfield Flowers and Events | Hair and Makeup // Salon Onyx | Officiant // Liz Liebstein | Photographer // Kelly Birch Photography | Rentals // All the Rage Rentals | Stationer / Cornerstone Copy | Transportation // Schmitty & Sons | Venue // Horse and Hunt Club

 

Prosperity, Love & Happiness,
Josey

 

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How Much Should I Tip My Vendors?

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How Much Should I Tip My Vendors?

To Insure Prompt Service. TIPS. The age old way of giving a monetary incentive, above and beyond that which was formerly agreed upon, to encourage or complement service that is above and beyond that which was expected. All that to say,

tipping YOUR WEDDING VENDORS is a SUPER personal choice.

If you, yourself, are a server or work in a tip based industry, then you likely appreciate and understand the dynamics of a tip. My husband works in a service based industry where most of his customers understand, 'hey, you're doing hard physical labor, something we could do ourselves but can't/don't/won't want to ourselves and you excelled at it. Here's a tip.'

But then there are other people who are completely clueless and a bit self-indulged (I can say this because I'm an only child - the epitome of self- anything. self-sufficient, self-confident, self-absorbed (?), suuuper humble).

Regardless, we (my husband and I) have come to truly understand, through numerous existential conversation about the world and our place in it, why we choose to tip or not. And a tip isn't less than 10%, a tip isn't rounding up to the nearest dollar.

This post is NOT written to convince you to tip or not. It is merely a guide offered to assist you, brides, and you, grooms, when you want to know, 'how much should I tip my vendors?'.

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TIPPING YOUR CATERER

Your servers are going to buss your tables.

Think about that impact. Guests will feel as though they can stay seated at their table and chat and visit without putting an elbow in their dirty plate - it encourages a flow. Like now that you are done with dinner and you're plate is cleared, you can - get up and dance - you can go watch the cake cutting and bring another plate of dessert back to your place setting - you can go talk to Aunt Norris at her clean and cleared table.

Servers get your guests extra napkins, more butter, they fill their water goblets and clear off cups filled with ice, limes and straws (i.e. empty). Servers should be thanked. Personally, my husband and I both agree that 15-20$ per server is fair. But I have heard more than one catering manager mention 50-100$. Technically the head chef and sous chef are the ones creating your meal, they should also get tipped and perhaps more than the servers, and also there is someone washing all the dishes and perhaps you could tip them as well for not calling in sick for the day.

Slippery slope. 

I suggest starting by taking 20% of your event productions cost or service charge, that's what you'll have to play with. Then divvy it up how you see fit. Still confused? Comment below or zip me an email, I'll help you my friend.

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TIPPING YOUR WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER

Remember that first part about to insure prompt service? Your photographer and videographer could be the type of people whom when tipped expedite their work. I'm not guaranteeing it, but tipping your photographer and videographer 20% COULD make it so that you get your wedding photos back faster.

It's also a nice thing to do, in my opinion, since these people are busting their hump to ensure they get the shot and you have permanent and tangible memories of your best day ever.

Furthermore, most photographers (and most planners, and some florists and most DJs) are self-employed. Most of them are going to be out in the wiles of nature (100 degrees, windy, rainy) stretching their bodies, squatting, and lugging equipment, all to get the shot. I could rant about this all day long, but I think you're taking the hint. You should tip your wedding photographer.

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TIPPING YOUR WEDDING DJ

Just wondering, did you already tip your DJ? Some will include and require a tip, they'll add a gratuity line to your final bill, and it will be filled out and you'll have already paid it. Sorry, but I think this is usually complete bullshit.

A DJ can easily earn a tip, for real. They can be solely responsible for keeping your reception timeline on time (like if you don't have a wedding planner), for making your guests feel at ease (like if the servers are cranky or the food is cold), for keeping the flow of the night flowing and the dance floor poppin (like exactly how you want your wedding night to go).

But they can also suck.

To tip before you know what kind of service you are getting seems both terrifying and a waste of money. I would caution you to question why the gratuity is included in your bill. Also, always read your bills and yo' contracts.

Of course, if the DJ is amazing, %20 tip! Can you tell I've had a shaky past with wedding DJs?

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TIPPING YOUR WEDDING HAIR AND MAKEUP ARTISTS

Uh, you tip the gal that cuts your hair and the guy who shaves your fade don't you? Then why would your wedding day, THE DAY THAT YOU WANT TO LOOK YOUR ABSOLUTE BESTEST, be any different?

Bridal parties: It might be wise, to tip based on the total bill and not just the cost for you to have your hair did. This holds especially true if you're wedding party is paying for their own hair and makeup. I also suggest collecting this payment at rehearsal dinner (a great task for your personal attendant) or right away in the AM. It makes it less awkward come time to vacate the bridal suite.

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TIPPING YOUR WEDDING OFFICIANT

There are different types of officiants, right? There's the kind from a church, who officiate for free, whom you should tip by donating to the church in their honor. There's the kind that are non-denominational and should be tipped 15-20% if they especially blow your socks off and make the wedding process smooth and make people laugh and cry and sigh and chortle during your ceremony.

Then there's the kind that have no idea what they are doing, but got certified online because they love you (or because you did it for them). Friends can get tipped too, especially if they are public speaking at the most important event in your life for free. $100 is a great tip for friends (or for the former donating to the church).

I would caution that if you want to donate something to the church that you are using for your wedding, instead of a monetary 'thank you for letting us get married here', well, maybe think about the fact that churches are businesses too. And while they do get moderately unjustified tax breaks, if you are truly in support of your church, you should truly support them. Donating candelabras doesn't pay the electricity bill.

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TIPPING YOUR WEDDING FLORIST

Similar to the difference between ordering your food at the counter and having your food served to you, I think florists should get tipped based on how far they go to get you your flowers. Some of you may be opting to pick up your flowers and set them up on your own (or have me set them up), in which case I just don't know if a tip is warranted. Aside from if you have a moment, when you pick them up from the warehouse, where your mind is blown because they are beyond-your-wildest-dreams gorgeous. 

If, however, your florist is delivering the flowers, setting them up, and then returning at the end of the night for clean up. Holy Hannah that's a lot of hustle and YES I think you should tip them 15-20% of the LABOR fee. I say labor because earlier I advised you to tip your caterer based on their labor fee, and not the cost of the food, so too/also not the cost of the flowers.

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TIPPING YOUR WEDDING PLANNER

*COUGH* If you had a rockin' engagement and a stress free day, I guarantee you that your wedding planner played a huge role in that. Just ask ANYONE who did not hire a wedding planner. Yours would not mind monetary gratitude. They would not.

Also if you have your wedding planner racing around, setting up, tearing down, carrying 30 feet of garland 150 yards, resetting up, moving chairs, stacking chairs, bathroom attending, serving food, bussing tables, ET CETERA. They should be tipped for their sweat.

That being said I've been tipped in many ways. Immediate reviews on Google and the Knot and Facebook and Wedding Wire. Always a thumbs up. I've been tipped with gifts cards ($100 usually), ALWAYS appreciated. But, of course, the best bonus, the one that makes you feel like, 'yes. I did succeed!', is going to be a cash tip. I usually get tipped 5-20%. That's a huge range that translates to $50-300. 

Again, I like to go the 20% route, so whip out your TI-89 and do some quick multiplication ($COST OF WEDDING PLANNER X 0.20 = tip).

 

As I wrote this I truly struggled to give you something that wasn't wishy washy. Why? Because tipping is based on cultural norms. In America, we tip when a service is provided. We tip the pizza delivery guy, we tip valet, we tip servers and bartenders, we tip the lady who cashes out our slot winnings and the person who cuts our hair. There's also people who should probably get tipped but don't always, like furniture movers, and landscapers. Then there's everyone else who provides a service.

Tip because you are happy and you want to make other people happy. Don't overthink it like, 'well they must make a lot of money because this costs a lot of money and therefore I should keep all of my money to myself'.

Gross.

Tip because you appreciate the service you got.

When your creating your wedding budget set aside 20% for tips, and you won't have to think twice about what else you could do with that money. That money is for thanking, and believe me, without good wedding vendors, you will NOT have a good wedding... so thank them!

Prosperity, Love & Happiness,
Josey

 

P.S. Header photo by Hanny Naibaho on Unsplash. All other photos by Kelly Birch Photography

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ANNA WEDS TIM

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ANNA WEDS TIM

“She was there to make sure everything was set up correctly, and everyone was where they needed to be for the ceremony. During the reception she was invaluable and made sure everything ran smoothly, and then she was there to organize everything we needed to take home. I can't recommend her highly enough!”

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CARRIE WEDS DAVE

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CARRIE WEDS DAVE

“Between managing an unorganized caterer, fixing a miscommunication to the makeup artist, to running our rehearsal dinner, Josey made it all happen.  We're so grateful to have found her, as she made all the difference.”

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Wedding Etiquette: Thank Yous

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Wedding Etiquette: Thank Yous

Gifts given in person ordinarily would get a verbal gratitudinous response, but when it comes to weddings, you need to put pen to paper and send your thanks in written form...

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